Happy Father's Day to ALL the dad's out there who take that title seriously and truly LOVE their children. I celebrate this day with love for my children, and I celebrate YOU....the fathers of the world.
Fatherhood - I absolutely love being a father! I am Blessed to have great kids. And in all fairness to my ex-wife, it took both of us to help make that happen. "Dad", is a word that is like music to my ears when it comes from the mouths of my kids. I'm also a step-dad to a great kid too. And while not his "father", I try to be the best (step) dad I can be for him and his development.
Okay - but on to my topic of today - Fatherhood. Calling all fathers....calling all fathers..... Our kids need YOU. Our communities need YOU. Our nation needs YOU.
Even if you are divorced and live in a separate home than your kids, they need YOU in their lives. And they need the very best from you for adult guidance and a good example of manhood and fatherhood.
Throughout my career in the law enforcement field, working on the streets, the jail, and as an investigator, I have seen countless kids, mostly boys, who either did not have an active dad in the picture, or a very bad one serving as an example for behavior. In any case, a REAL "father" was missing, and the kids, and the community, were paying the price. I see kids all the time, where I think to myself, "That one will be in jail soon!" Our children learn more by example, or the lack of one, than by anything else. A "father" can be the strongest example a kid, specially a young boy, can have. (Even daughters need a good "dad", so they can gauge what a " good man" should be like when she chooses a husband.) Boys will more likely, emulate the characteristics of the father, good or bad (not in every case, some kids have other issues that can impair the parenting process).
I once heard somewhere - "Everyone can serve as an example, even if by being a bad one!" It's that way with fathers. If a father treats his wife bad, the likelihood is that his male children will do the same. If a father is a drunk or does drugs, then it is far more likely that his children will too. Who could truly love their children, and want that for them?
MEN - If you don't want to be an active and participating "father", then don't father children! In MY opinion, ANY male (I won't use "man" for such lame a--holes) who fathers children and doesn't participate in raising them, should be castrated! (Actually, I'd also go for any women who help create fatherless children with multiple men, for pleasure, should be sterilized!) Yep... CASTRATE the bastards! No more creation of children by men who don't take responsibility. They are NOT real men, they are just sperm dispensers on legs.
To any male who should read this, who falls into that category of creating children and then NOT participating in raising them....... SHAME ON YOU. You are a spineless scroatbag simpleton with a penis for a brain! And if any such person should father multiple children with multiple women, and take care of none of them, I'm just fine with dumping their worthless body in a swamp for the gators to have! And liars, drunkards, dopers, swindlers, and lazy men, are NOT the examples our kids need.
As a nation, we tolerate far too much. And part of that, is tolerating such people and having the rest of us, saying nothing of the children who have to grow up the best they can, pay for it all. The gators could eat well with all those who commit such acts. Hard? Damn right! Needed? Damn skippy!
I love my kids. I can't imagine this world without them. And I can't relate to those men who don't love their kids and want to be part of their lives, and to do well by them. To all those real dads out their, I salute you! Fatherhood is the greatest job out there.
To my children - I love you. I have made mistakes and I hope you see them for what they are and do better than I did. I hope too that you take all my best parts, and take them with you through your lives. As for the not-so-good qualities, use them as examples of what you don't want to be like. You are already better than I am, and I am so pleased, and Blessed for that. I have always wanted better for you, than what I have and am. Thank you God for my children. They are gifts beyond my deserving.
Happy Father's Day to all the great dads out there!
