For most men, we were young contemptible boys at one time or another. Some of us had moments of rebellion, obstinance, and just downright disrespect for our elders. And that included at times, our own mothers.
I know I was guilty in some of those respects when I was young. We all do in one way or another. For the most part, I believe I've been respectful to women, and to my mom. I'm sure there were times I may not have shown it, but I always respected her. She was a hard worker, with keeping house AND an outside job to help with the family finances. She was strict, but never abusive (spankings were not abuse!). And I learned a LOT from how I was brought up.
In my adult years, I have had jobs where I saw every kind of man, young and old, one could run across. They ran the gambit of criminals, juvenile delinquents, abusers of women, and abusers of "mothers". In many such cases, there was either no father involved, or a father leading by a bad example, who was abusive to his wife and/or his own mother. So there was little chance of a "good" male role model to help guide a kid into proper behavior toward others, specially women and "mothers".
As a Cop, I often saw such young men who abused women, to include girlfriends, sisters, and mothers. And for some of those, I just didn't see much that would change who they were. Mostly, because there didn't appear to be any chance of a change of heart within such a kid. The bad lessons were too deep, and the law was usually there to just pick up the pieces, delivering the misguided young man to the courts to deal with. No real lessons were to come with that either, except to maybe not get "caught" next time! Even then, many "mothers" let them back into their lives, because "mothers" do that. That kid, no matter what, is a mother's child.
But even today, I see "men", to use the term loosely, who disrespect women in general, and their own mothers. Such disrespect can come in the form of physical abuse, mental abuse, or taking advantage of a mother's goodness and love. While some don't commit actual crimes, their mark on the those moms leave a deep hurt. No such hurt should be felt by a "mother". And again, that is more often than not without a "father" involved, or a "father" was there and who abused her as well. A mother, who carried that child, nurtured that child, and raised the child the best she could, deserves respect. No mother is perfect, but every "mother" is a "mother", and respect for her is due every mother. (Abusive mothers not included. But we do need to ask "why" such mothers abuse. That's a different topic.) And may I dare say, NO ONE could cause such a deep hurt to a mother's heart, than her own child can.
Many of these men go on to commit crimes, or constantly run into law enforcement in one way or another. Others, perhaps more of these, go on to treat their mothers with disrespect in various ways, such a mental and verbal abuse. Or worse yet, abuse a mother's heart by intentionally bringing emotional hurt to the very person who brought them into the world. A mother's own child, forsaking the love of that mom, and turning his back on her emotional needs, needs an ass whoopin'! Above most anything on earth, and I can only imagine this, a "mother" needs the love of her own child, above ALL that from any other.
I have no use for abusers, and that includes abusers of the heart to such mothers. Any "man" who treats his mother with disrespect, could just as well do anything to anyone. For such men to disrespect their own mother, the very person who held them to her bosom, is a low-life in my book. But while I say that, "mothers" would still come to their child's aid and defend them.
Young women pay attention! Young women need to really know a guy they may be interested in. They need to know how a guy treats their female friends and family. Know how they treat their own mothers. As far as I'm concerned, such disrespect and/or abuse, is a sure sign of a flawed man, and a wide berth should be given to such a person. If a man abuses his own flesh-n-blood mother, then a young women has a similar fate to come. I give such men a wide berth too, and have no use for them in my space. Such tolerance for them, would be like condoning their behavior. Honestly, I'd rather just slap the crap out of such men!
Men - Fathers - It is up to YOU, to help bring the young men of our nation up to show respect for the women in their lives, ALL women they come into contact with. But most importantly, teach them - SHOW them - how to treat their mother. Chances are, knowing how to respect women, specially their own mothers, will usually guide them to respect all people. But respect starts at home, by respecting their own MOTHERS!
Yep, you can tell a lot about a man, by how he treats his own mother.
